The Power Of…
Positive Thinking During Tough Times
Can Help You Reduce Stress,
Drastically Eliminate Anxiety,
Chronic Illness, While Helping You
Enjoy MORE Life!
Part 1
As your family
attorney I want to do everything I
can to help you during these tough
times. Positive thinking helps
reduce stress, improve your health,
while giving you more quality of
life! Inside this article I would
like to help you overcome negative
self-talk by recognizing it, then
practicing some amazing powerful
tools to help you turn any negative
situation around.
Have you ever
heard this question? “Is your glass
half-empty or half-full?” How you
answer this question will determine
if you are an optimist (positive
thinker) or pessimist (negative
thinker) which ultimately determines
your outlook in life, your attitude
toward yourself and how you’ll
achieve your goals.
Some recent studies have shown that
these personality traits — optimism
vs. pessimism — can affect many
areas of your health and longevity.
The Power of Positive Thinking…
Without a doubt positive thinking is
a critical ingredient to effectively
manage stress. Positive thinking
doesn't mean that you keep your head
in the sand while ignoring life's
less pleasant situations. On the
other hand, it simply means that you
approach the unpleasantness in a
more productive, empowered and
positive way.
With all this in mind, let me give
you a crash course in positive
thinking. Discover how you can put
positive thinking into action so you
can reap the benefits. The fist step
is to understand what positive
thinking and self-talk is.
Self-talk is the endless stream of
thoughts that run through your head
everyday. These automatic thoughts
can be “positive” or “negative.”
Some psychologists believe that we
have over 50,000 thoughts racing
through our minds everyday. Some of
your self-talk comes from logic and
reason. Other self-talk may arise
from misconceptions that you create
because of lack of information.
If the thoughts that run through
your head are mostly gloom and doom,
your outlook on life will most
likely be less empowered and
pessimistic, which will lead to a
severe strain upon your immune
system. If your thoughts are mostly
positive, you're empowered to take
positive action steps to make things
happen.
The Health Benefits of Positive
Thinking:
Researchers continue to explore the
effects of positive thinking and
optimism on health. Health benefits
that positive thinking may provide
include:
1) Increased life span
2) Improved coping skills during
hardships and
times of intense stress
3) Increased resistance to cold
symptoms
6) Better psychological and physical
well-being
7) Reduced risk from cardiovascular
disease
8) Decrease your risk of depression
(Part II Continues
Next Month)
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Tips For Helping
Your Kids Better
Deal With Back to School Anxiety
The beginning of a
new school year is now upon us which
can be a stressful time for many
young children, with new teachers,
classmates, bigger classrooms, new
routines and more homework. This
time can particularly be
overwhelming for school children who
are facing major transitions such as
starting elementary school, entering
middle school, or going to high
school. As a parent there are
proactive steps you can easily take
to help support your child as he or
she heads back to school this fall.
Step #1: Is to become highly
interested and enthusiastic about
the start of a new school year. They
say that enthusiasm is contagious.
If you’re excited about school, your
child will be too. I would suggest
that you take the time to visit your
child’s school during open house
events, so you can take a walk
around the school with your child
and locate his or her classrooms,
lunchroom, playground and restrooms.
This will help keep your child from
feeling anxious or lost on the first
day.
Take time to listen to your child
and talk about aspects of the new
school that he or she is worried
about. Let your child know that it’s
perfectly normal to feel a little
nervous about the start of a new
school year. For parents of younger
children I would suggest that your
child take a family photo or special
object to school making his or her
surroundings more comfortable. At
the end of the day you should spend
some time talking to your child
about what happened at school. Give
your child encouraging support and
feedback about his or her new
experiences.
Step #2: Praise and encourage
your child to become involved with
school activities and to simply try
new things. The key to helping your
child make a smooth transition is to
attend school functions and stay
involved in your child’s education.
Children whose parents are more
involved with their education have
higher academic performance, are
better adjusted, and are less likely
to drop out of school.
Make a point to learn about how your
child develops not just physically,
but emotionally, and socially as
well. If you are aware of what’s
typical behavior for your child’s
stage of development, you’ll more
readily be able to tell when things
may not be right.
Step #3: Just remember that
anxiety and stress about starting
school is normal for a child and
usually passes within the first few
days or weeks. If your child
continues to seem anxious or
stressed about school, it may be
time to seek professional help. Talk
to your child’s teacher and/or
family physician about what you can
do as a parent. If problems persist,
consider a referral to a trained and
qualified mental health professional
(child psychologist).
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Music Trivia Questions and
Answers
What two Frank
Sinatra hits were tops for U.S.
karaoke singers in 1993?
A: New York, New York and My Way.
What stringed
symphonic instrument has a pedestal
and a crown?
A: The Harp.
What studio did
the Beatles use to record 191 songs?
A: Abby Road.
What jazz musician
got his nickname by shortening
"Satchel Mouth"?
A: Louis Armstrong.
What jazz
trumpeter was dubbed the "Prince of
Darkness"?
A: Miles Davis.
What California
group waited 22 years to score their
first chart-topping single since
1966?
A: The Beach Boys.
Who scored his
first platinum album since 1978 with
" The Icon Is Love " in 1994?
A: Barry White.
What Michael
Jackson album spawned five
chart-topping singles?
A: Bad.
What did Def
Leppard drummer Rick Allen lose in a
1984 auto accident?
A: An arm.
Tips For Helping
Your Kids Study More Effectively
(With a Lot Less Stress)!
Certain key
strategies, tools, and concepts with
a little practice will make your
kids life a lot easier when it comes
to study time and getting organized.
However, these ideas may require
some minor adjustments for you and
your kids but in the long run it’ll
be well worth it.
Tip #1: Turn Off The TV. Make a new
house rule, depending on the
location of the TV, that when it’s
study time, there’s "no TV."
Tip #2: Hey Mom, What About The
Radio - - Should It Be Turned Off
Too? Contrary to what many
specialists say, some youngsters do
seem to function all right with
background music. (Depending on the
layout of your house or apartment,
maybe an investment in earphones
would be worthy of consideration.)
Tip #3: Certain Rules Should Be Set
About The Family Phone During Study
Time. A timer, placed next to the
phone, can help to control the
length of calls so that the
telephone will be available if it
becomes necessary to call a
schoolmate to confirm an assignment
or discuss particularly difficult
homework. The more people in the
household, the more restrictions on
long and unnecessary phone calls are
needed.
Tip #4: Designate Specific Areas For
Homework And Studying. You want to
eliminate as much distraction as
possible. Possibilities include the
child's room or the kitchen or
dining room table.
Keeping general supplies on hand is
important.
Check with your child about his/her
needs. In fact, make it his/her
responsibility to be well supplied
with paper, pencils, note pads,
notebook paper, etc.
Since many young people will study
in their own rooms, function becomes
more important than beauty. Most
desks for young people really don't
have sufficient space to spread out
materials. A table that allows for
all necessary supplies such as
pencils, pens, paper, books, and
other essentials works extremely
well.
Encourage the use of a small book or
pad for writing down assignments so
that there is no confusion about
when certain assignments must be
turned in to the teacher.
Tip #5:
Consistency As Well As Regularity Is
A Key Factor In Academic Success. If
your son or daughter doesn't have
other commitments and gets home
reasonably early from school, some
homework can be done before supper.
Try to organize the household so
that supper is served at a regular
time, and once it and family
discussions are over, it's time to
crack the books.
Consider you child's developmental
level when setting the amount of
time for homework. While high school
students can focus for over an hour,
first-graders are unlikely to last
more than 15 minutes on a single
task. Allow your child to take
breaks, perhaps as a reward for
finishing a section of the work.
Tip #6: Organize Study And Homework
Projects. Get a large calendar, one
that allows space for jotting down
things in the daily boxes. Rip it
apart so that you (and the child)
can sequentially mount the school
months for the current semester. For
example, you can tear off September,
October, November, December, and
January and mount them from left to
right across one wall keeping track
of key school projects.
Tips For Helping
Your Kids Study Effectively (With a
Lot Less Stress)!
Tip #7: Teach Your Child That
Studying Is More Than Just Doing
Homework Assignments. One of the
most misunderstood aspects of
schoolwork is the difference between
studying and doing homework
assignments. Encourage your child to
do things like:
* Take notes as he's reading a
chapter
* Learn to skim material
* Learn to study tables and charts
Tip #8: Note-Taking Is A Critical
Skill That Should Be Developed.
While some students have realized
the value of an outline format for
note-taking, many students don't
know how to take notes in classes
that require them. Some students
feel that they must write every
single word down the teacher says.
Well prepared teachers present their
material in a format that lends
itself to outline form note taking.
Tip #9: Should Notes Ever Be
Rewritten?
In some cases, they should be,
particularly if a lot of material
was covered, and the youngster had
to write quickly yet lacks the speed
or organizational tools. Rewriting
notes takes time, but it can be an
excellent review of the subject
matter. However, rewriting notes
isn't worth the time unless they are
used for review and recall of
important information.
Tip #10: A Home Dictionary Is
Essential. If its going to be kept
on a shelf gathering dust, it won't
do anyone any good. Keep it in an
accessible location and let your
child see you refer it from time to
time. If the family dictionary is
kept in the living room and the
child studies in his room, get him
an inexpensive dictionary for
his/her exclusive use.
Good dictionary, encyclopedia and
organizational skills depend on the
ability to alphabetize. See if your
child's teacher practices
alphabetizing in the classroom. Try
alphabetizing spelling words, family
members' names or a few favorite
toys at home as a way of practicing.
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Bourbon-Glazed Salmon
The marinade in
this recipe is also good on pork
tenderloin or boneless chicken
breasts.
Yield: 8 servings
(serving size: 1 fillet)
Ingredients:
1 cup packed brown sugar
6 tablespoons bourbon
1/4 cup low-sodium soy sauce
2 tablespoons fresh lime juice
2 teaspoons grated peeled fresh
ginger
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black
pepper
2 garlic cloves, crushed
8 (6-ounce) salmon fillets (about 1
inch thick)
Cooking spray
4 teaspoons sesame seeds
1/2 cup thinly sliced green onions
Preparation:
Combine the first 8 ingredients in a
large zip-top plastic bag; add
salmon fillets. Seal bag, and
marinate in refrigerator 30 minutes,
turning bag once. Remove fillets
from bag; discard marinade.
Preheat broiler:
Place fillets on broiler pan coated
with cooking spray. Broil 11 minutes
or until fish flakes easily when
tested with a fork. Sprinkle each
fillet with 1/2 teaspoon sesame
seeds and 1 tablespoon onions.
Nutritional Information:
Calories: 307 (34% from fat)
Fat: 11.6g (sat 1.8g,mono 3.9g,poly
4.7g)
Protein: 34.4g
Carbohydrate: 14.9g
Fiber: 0.4g
Cholesterol: 94mg
Iron: 2mg
Sodium: 288mg
Calcium: 53mg
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Car Accident - Safety Tips To
Remember!
If you’re ever in
a car accident here are some safety
tips that can save your life and
protect your family.
1. DON’T make any sudden moves to
your head and neck. You may have
sustained a serious injury that
could be aggravated by sudden
movements.
2. TURN the engine off IMMEDIATELY!
3. MAKE sure that everyone in your
car is conscious and hasn’t
sustained any cuts or lacerations.
4. IF you have small children in the
car make sure
that they’re OK.
5. IF you have a cell phone call 911
for help.
6. IF you smell gas fumes get out of
your car at once.
7. BEFORE getting out of your car
make sure that no other car is
coming.
8. IF you’re OK to get out of your
car check on the other driver.
9. IF you don’t have an auto
accident handbook, please contact
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Ten Ways to Help
Your Child
Become Self-Reliant
Every parent wants
to help their children become more
successful while protecting them.
Yet the best thing we can all do for
our kids, though, is teach them how
to help themselves. They say, “If
you give a man a fish you feed him
for a day, show a man to fish and
you feed him for a lifetime.” Read
on for ways to help your kids
develop into successful adults.
1. Encourage Public Speaking:
Taking a speech class or joining the
debate team can serve a number of
purposes for teens. The biggest key
to boosting your children’s
self-esteem is helping them to
develop the ability to stand up in
front of a large group of people and
make themselves heard (as well as
their communication skills).
Learning the appropriate way to
speak to a variety of audiences is
also important, as high school
students need to know how to address
peers, teachers, and future
employers.
2. Practicing
Negotiation Skills:
These days high school students are
looking for more personal freedom
and independence. Rather than
setting all the house rules, have a
family planning session for rule
setting. By involving kids in
determining regulations, parents
teach them the invaluable skills of
fair compromise and negotiation
skills with authority figures.
3. Organizational and Time
Management Skills:
My favorite saying about child
behavior is, “Money see, monkey do.”
Obviously children learn from
modeling what they see. If parents
are late or disorganized, their kids
generally follow suit. Post a
calendar that highlights individual
and group appointments and plans.
Use a weekly planner, and make to-do
lists. In short, you need to start
setting a good example right NOW so
your kids will model being well
organized for their ultimate
success.
4. Teach Self-Sufficiency:
Show your teen how to do laundry.
Make them responsible for a family
meal once per week. Ultimately, this
will make them more independent and
successful in life. The more your
kids do for themselves, the more
confident they'll be when it comes
to handling themselves in new
situations.
5. Encourage Independence at School:
The first things that teens need to
understand is
that they are responsible for their
academic success. Teens appreciate
room to succeed, or making mistakes,
on their own. They should be keeping
track of assignments with due dates,
communicating independently with
counselors and teachers, while
participating in the extracurricular
activities of their choice. Clearly,
parental advice is appropriate at
times.
6. Listen With an Open Mind:
Of course, kids will sometimes
disagree with you. Didn’t you
disagree with your parents too?
Those who fear disapproval or
punishment often hide the truth or
avoid discussing important topics.
Teens who have high self-esteem and
are confident in talking to you
without a major blow-up are more
likely to be forthcoming (especially
when they have a real problem to
deal with). In the end, young people
who feel good about expressing
themselves at home will be more
prepared to express themselves in
difficult situations that come up in
life.
7. You Need To Provide Structure:
Although many teens won’t like
playing by the rules, teens actually
function better when rules are in
place. Authoritative parents who
require adherence to an agreed-upon
set of rules, but who also encourage
communication and independence,
produce happy and successful kids.
8. Remember That Every Story Has Two
Sides:
When your kids come home with tales
of woe, you need to keep in mind
that you’re only hearing ONE side of
the story (take it from a lawyer).
Before forming an opinion, get ALL
the facts. Did the teacher really
give only one day's notice for a
10-page essay? Did the coach
actually keep your child out of the
game for no reason? When teens are
hurting, they may embellish the
facts. Parents who know the facts
can effectively help their children
learn to respond appropriately to
these life lessons.
9. Teach Self-Respect:
Please remember this rule, when
people feel good about themselves,
they are better able to stand up for
themselves, and teenagers are no
exception. Focus on helping your
child develop good decision-making
skills through solid self-esteem.
Praise a job well done, and
emphasize positive character traits.
A child who is confident will not be
afraid to speak up.
10. Teach Logical Conflict
Resolution:
Today’s teens deal with many
problems that many of us never had
to deal with in the social and
academic arenas. At this critical
part of their life when emotions are
running high, teens need help
figuring out how to resolve everyday
dilemmas. You’re a great resource
for finding alternatives in problem
solving. Encourage thinking calmly
and critically, so your kids learn
to pick the solution that makes the
most sense to them.
How To Use An
Informational Interview
To Get The Real Scoop On An
Occupation
The purpose of an
informational interview is to get
inside scoop about a field of work
from someone who has some firsthand
knowledge. When you are on an
informational interview you should
NOT ask for a job.
This is not to say that an
informational interview can’t lead
to a position. In addition to
helping you learn about a particular
career path, the interview is a way
to start building research - -
people just love to talk about
themselves.
People also love to hear about
themselves (the good things of
course!). If your interviewee was
referred to you by someone, ask that
person about him or her. Also, see
what you can find out by looking in
local business journals or trade
publications.
For example, was the interviewee
recently promoted or did he or she
receive some special recognition?
Research that person's employer as
well. You’ll be prepared for the
interview process and therefore make
a solid impression.
You should research your career of
interest in order to ask intelligent
questions. Was there something
mentioned in the occupational
information you didn't fully
understand? The informational
interview is a good forum to get
that clarified. Here is a small
sampling of questions you can ask:
* Can you describe a typical day at
work?
* How many hours do you normally
work in a week?
* What do you see as the potential
for growth in
this field?
You've done your homework and can
walk into the informational
interview confident that you’ll make
a good impression and get the
information that will help you make
a wise decision. Don't forget to
dress to impress, making sure to
arrive on time, keep the interview
to the scheduled length, and
remember proper etiquette at all
times. You should remember to send a
“Thank You” card to show your
appreciation. The interviewee has
taken time out of what is probably a
very busy schedule to help you.
Getting to Know
the Lawyers at
Franks & Rechenberg, P.C.
THE RECHENBERG CLAN GOES BACK TO
SCHOOL
Peter, the oldest
child is attending Central Michigan
University this year. His mom ,
Debra, was calm and collected when
she dropped her first born off in
another state six hours away to
attend college for the first time.
She gave him a big hug and a kiss
when the family left him to fend for
himself in the dorm. The very next
day when she was getting ready for
work, she looked into his room saw
that it was empty and broke down and
began crying. Obviously she is not
as tough as she thinks!
Heidi is a
freshman at Marian Central, she
reports that her first day was a
blast because there were only
freshman (fishes) attending the
first day and she made lots of
friends. She was nervous the next
day when the upper classmen,
including her sister Amy (a Junior)
started classes.
Michael, 12 yrs
old (the youngest), started school a
week before his brothers and sisters
and is attending Hebron Middle
School. He reports that he is
keeping up with his homework, even
though he seems to spend a lot of
time playing video games. He spends
the rest of his time playing youth
football. He is the center on
offense and nose tackle on defense.
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